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The full armour of God
How to make anyone fall in love with you
The following discourse will explore the question of how to make anyone fall in love with you.
The question of whether this is possible is the subject of much debate.
The question of whether it is possible to influence the romantic inclinations of another individual is one that many people find themselves asking. The self-assessment process often includes the consideration of personal attributes such as physical attractiveness, intelligence, sensitivity, and professional accomplishments. However, despite the self-perception of being a satisfactory candidate, the quest for romantic fulfilment may not be realised. The question of why a particular individual does not reciprocate the feelings held by the self-assessment process is a common one. The act of self-flagellation, symbolised by the metaphorical striking of the pillow, is a frequent occurrence in the quest for answers to these questions.
You open this book with a sense of scepticism, yet you harbour a glimmer of hope for a solution to this conundrum.You read the title: How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You.
"That's a mighty big promise," you say, and indeed it is. However, the promise of this book is yours if you are willing to follow a scientifically sound plan to capture the heart of a potential love partner.
This is in direct opposition to the historical tendency of broken hearts, and the present claim is that the means to make someone fall in love with us is now within our grasp. This is due to the fact that, after centuries of resistance, science is finally unravelling what romantic love actually is, what triggers it, what kills it, and what makes it last.
Just as ancient tribesmen perceived an eclipse as a sign of black magic, humanity has long attributed the phenomenon of love to enchantment. However, during the initial euphoric moments of infatuation, it is evident that love can be defined as a blend of chemistry, biology, and psychology. (And, perhaps, a modicum of black magic.)
As scientific exploration ventures into uncharted realms, we are beginning to comprehend the fundamental principles of love, a concept described by George Bernard Shaw as "the most insane, delusive, and transient of passions." The question that preoccupies humanity, "What compels individuals to remain in a state of constant passion, commitment, and exhaustion until death?" remains unanswered. The enigma of love and the conundrum of understanding its essence continue to perplex. This question has been pondered by philosophers and psychologists throughout history, including notable figures such as Plato, Sigmund Freud, and Charles Schulz.
In the context of the 1950 Broadway theatre, the audience of South Pacific experienced a profound sense of resonance with Ezio Pinza's contemplation, "Who can explain it? Who can tell you why? Fools give you reasons. Wise men never try."Recent endeavours by numerous individuals of discernment to unravel the enigma of love have met with success. The credit for this should not be attributed solely to Rodgers and Hammerstein. In the context of the 1950 South Pacific production, Ezio Pinza's musings on love, as articulated in his character's song, "Who Can Explain It? Who Can Tell You Why? Fools give you reasons. Wise men never try", resonated profoundly with the audience. This sentiment resonates with the scientific community's long-standing perplexity regarding the complexities of love, as exemplified by the characters of Nellie and Emile de Becque.
Science "Discovers" Sex
Long before Sigmund Freud addressed the subject, analytical scientific minds concurred that love was fundamental to the human experience. However, their rational brains also deemed that evaluating, classifying, and defining romantic love was impossible and therefore a futile exercise.Freud himself died convinced that humanity still knew very little about love.
This assertion, made by Freud, remained the prevailing scientific consensus until the early 1970s. However, a pioneering group of social psychologists, driven by a quest to understand the intricacies of human love, challenged the prevailing scientific doctrine. These social psychologists, motivated by the persistent interrogation of love by scientists, embarked on a journey of their own, delving into the complexities of romantic love through rigorous scientific research.
Two female psychologists made a breakthrough by inadvertently focusing the attention of the modern press on the ancient question of 'What is love?' Ellen Berscheid, PhD, with a colleague, Elaine Hatfield, managed to secure an $84,000 federal grant to study romantic love. Berscheid convinced the National Science Foundation to open its coffers by declaring, 'We already understand the mating habits of the stickleback fish.' (Berscheid & Hatfield, 1979). It is time to turn to a new species."
Berscheid's study, akin to others that preceded it, might have escaped notice and remained unpublished, had it not been for a dozen or so pages in an obscure professional journal. Fortuitously for those seeking romantic fulfilment, one morning on Capitol Hill, former United States Senator William Proxmire of Wisconsin was going through his papers. Amidst the accumulated documents was the NSF's 'frivolous' grant to two women to study relationships.
Berscheid's study, like many others before it, might well have been overlooked and never seen the light of day, had it not been for a handful of pages in an obscure professional journal. Fortunately for those seeking romantic relationships, one morning on Capitol Hill, former United States Senator William Proxmire of Wisconsin was going through his papers. Buried deep in the pile was the NSF's 'frivolous' grant to two women to study relationships.
Proxmire was incensed! He immediately wrote an explosive press release announcing that romantic love was not a science and, furthermore, he roared, 'National Science Foundation, get out of the love racket. Leave that to Elizabeth Barrett Browning and Irving Berlin.' Proxmire then added a personal note: 'I'm also against it because I don't want the answer.' "He assumed everyone felt the same, but he was wrong.
Proxmire's reaction instigated a global uproar that persisted for the subsequent two years, with the media demonstrating particular interest in the subject. The National Science Foundation's investigation into the subject of love attracted significant attention, with newspapers devoting extensive coverage to the topic. Cameras and microphones were directed towards Berscheid, and his office received a deluge of correspondence.
The media attention generated by Proxmire's critique of love backfired, instead generating considerable interest in the study of love. Proxmire's controversial statement on love had unintended consequences, generating significant interest in the study of love. James Reston of the New York Times asserted that if Berscheid et al. could identify "the answer to our pattern of romantic love, marriage, disillusion, divorce, and the children left behind," it would be a significant investment of federal funds. This statement signalled a paradigm shift in the field, leading to a proliferation of studies examining every aspect of love. As Berscheid et al. sought to identify the "answer to our pattern of romantic love, marriage, disillusion, divorce and the children left behind", the field of study known as "romantic love" was seen by many as being worthy of federal investment. The resulting body of research, which includes contributions from respected social scientists such as Foa, Murstein, Dion, Aron and Rubin, has taught us how to make somebody fall in love, although this was not the original purpose of the studies.
It must be acknowledged that not all of the studies directly address the aforementioned objective; indeed, many of them are encumbered by unwieldy titles, such as "The Implications of Exchange Orientation on the Dyadic Functioning of Heterosexual Cohabitors". In order to locate the relevant studies, it was necessary to meticulously review numerous publications, including those investigating the auditory responses of mice to classical, jazz and blues music in order to ascertain the effect on their libido. Other studies, which were not pertinent to our goal, explored sexual attraction to corpses, and there were studies on tantric motionless intercourse, which, I assumed, works only when a couple's honeymoon cruise ship hits rocky seas.
Fortunately, a significant proportion of studies yielded more fruitful and practical results. Notably, the research conducted by the intrepid scholar Timothy Perper, a PhD, who devoted a considerable amount of time to observing subjects in his preferred laboratory setting, known as a 'singles bar', proved to be particularly beneficial. Additionally, we have the invaluable contributions of Robert Sternberg and his colleagues, who explored theories of love, as well as the insightful early explorations into the elements of infatuation by Dorothy Tennov and others. A number of researchers have contributed to our understanding of human sexuality. Among them, Carol Ronai merits particular attention for her unorthodox approach to research. Ronai, a self-proclaimed "table dancer" in a "topless bar," employed a unique methodology by recording the facial expressions of men in an attempt to identify the factors that attract them to a partner.
The Compilation of Further Research
My own research, although less daring, was no less rigorous. For more than ten years, prior to my transition to a career as a communications consultant and trainer, I was director of a research group I had founded called The Project. The Project was a New York City-based not-for-profit corporation established to explore sexuality and relationships. During my tenure with The Project, I interviewed and catalogued thousands of subjects on what they sought in a partner. Information was collated from students at the numerous universities at which the author was invited to speak on their research.
The Project attracted a considerable amount of attention, which was not anticipated by the researchers. This was due to the work of Ellen Berscheid, and the Project was featured in a full-page article in Time magazine, entitled 'Sex Fantasy Goes to Broadway'. The article was written by a reporter from the same magazine who attended one of the Project's sessions.
I collated information from students at various universities where I had been invited to speak on my research. As with the work of Ellen Berscheid, The Project experienced an unsought avalanche of attention, which brought it to national attention. A Time magazine reporter attended one of our sessions and wrote a full-page article declaring, "Sex Fantasy Goes to Broadway", which, indeed, it did.
One arm of The Project involved volunteers presenting psychodramatisations of their actual love fantasies on stage. Because there was no nudity or explicit language, the squeaky-clean dramatisations were unique and caught the attention of the three major television networks, which presented excerpts of the vignettes on national programmes. This, in turn, spawned dozens of articles in respected mainstream publications in America and Europe.
The project received a significant amount of attention from the media, with the presentation of psychodramatisations of actual love fantasies on stage being the primary source of this attention. The absence of any nudity or explicit language in these dramatisations ensured their uniqueness, and the content was presented on national television networks. This attracted the attention of mainstream publications in both America and Europe, which published dozens of articles on the subject.
The project also received a high volume of correspondence from individuals seeking to share their personal experiences and aspirations in the realm of love. The content of these letters and calls often included the sentiment that the authors had never previously disclosed their deepest desires to anyone. The anonymous nature of the project meant that the callers and writers were able to divulge their most intimate thoughts to the Project. The Project team listened to these disclosures with gratitude, as they gathered data on the factors that led to or contributed to romantic relationships.
The Development of the Techniques
Turning our attention away from the realm of human sexuality, we shall now explore the domain of communications. It is within this discipline that I apply the insights gleaned from my research to devise practical techniques aimed at fostering romantic attraction.
It has been proven beyond any doubt that there are ways to induce desired behaviour in people. If this were not the case, all psychologists and thousands of corporate trainers, myself included, would be out of business. There are established methods for invoking various emotions and for changing people's behaviour. For example, we can learn how to deal with difficult people or get to make troublesome employees respond in the desired way.
Feedback from seminars delivered to government organisations, universities, professional associations, and corporate training programmes has consistently demonstrated the efficacy of these methods.The process entails first identifying behavioural patterns and then employing targeted verbal and non-verbal skills to modify behaviour.
The present volume is based on scientific studies, and it reveals the fundamental needs and motivations that precipitate romantic attraction. It then provides the reader with the verbal and non-verbal skills required to induce the desired behaviour, in this case, romantic attraction.
This book is the culmination of extensive research and exploration into several disciplines, including interpersonal relationships, human sexuality, communication skills, and gender differences. The research draws from scientific studies of the nature of love, as well as from my own research, and benefits from the contributions of modern therapists and communication analysts. The author is particularly indebted to the work of sociolinguist Deborah Tannen and therapist John Gray, who popularised the concept of the Mars/Venus model of gender differences in thinking and communicating.
The question of what constitutes the recipe for captivating the affections of another has been posed. Can this phenomenon be distilled into a formulaic expression?The subsequent hypothesis, though seemingly straightforward, is in reality rather intricate.
The recipe for making someone fall in love with you can be summarised as follows: first, establish a solid scientific basis for the elements that comprise interpersonal attraction; secondly, gather in-depth information about the object of your affection; thirdly, employ sophisticated, often subliminal, communication techniques to meet their conscious and subconscious needs; and finally, secure your quarry by using your perception of precisely what they want sexually. The proposed methodology is outlined below.
The Methodology Employed in Testing the Techniques
The present author was not satisfied with merely relying on research; it was necessary to ascertain the practical efficacy of the techniques in question. To this end, a seminar was created with the same title as this book, "How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You", and which was held several years ago.
Invitations to the seminar poured in from across the country, from institutions such as colleges, singles groups, clubs and continuing education organisations. It is on this stage that the material has been tested, and the feedback from my students is affirmative. The technique is effective.
It must be noted, however, that this process is by no means a simple one.
However, it does require sacrifice.
It is possible that, upon completion of this book, the reader may conclude that capturing the heart of a significant other is not worth the personal sacrifice required. However, should the reader elect to proceed, they are invited to follow the guidance set out in this book, which will explore the skills necessary to accomplish the task of capturing the heart of a Potential Love Partner. It should be noted that the term "Potential Love Partner" has been used on multiple occasions. This term will be used consistently throughout the book, despite its length, as it is more accurate than any other term, a decision that was made by my publisher in the interest of readability.
The term 'Potential Love Partner' (PLP) refers to an individual who is prepared for a romantic relationship.Timing is a crucial factor in the pursuit of love, and its influence should not be underestimated. For instance, the loss of a spouse can temporarily dissuade an individual from seeking new romantic relationships.
Secondly, a Potential Love Partner is defined as any individual who is not currently fulfilling esoteric psychological (or Lovemap) needs. These needs, which are not attributable to any personal shortcoming, may include unmet emotional and relational desires. The concept of a Partner's Lovemap will be elaborated upon in subsequent discussions.
The pool of potential romantic partners is extensive, and the number of available options is considerable. The journey to identifying the individual who meets your criteria, and who you believe to be your ideal partner, can be a long and arduous one.
